PLEASE CHECK WITH THE VICAR REGARDING THE REGULATIONS FOR HOLDING FUNERALS DURING THE COVID-19 PANDEMIC
God's love and power extends over all creation. Every life, including our own, is precious to God. Christians have always believed that there is hope in death as in life, and that there is new life in Christ after death.
The death of a loved one affects everyone regardless of faith. Even those who share the Christian faith find that there is a real sense of loss at the death of a loved one. We will each have had our own experiences of their life and death, with different memories and different feelings of love, grief and respect. To acknowledge this the funeral service helps us to express our feelings (and our faith if appropriate) as we say farewell. It is where we can acknowledge our loss and our sorrow and reflect on our own lives in a safe and sacred space. All those who mourn need support and comfort and we are here to help with this journey throughout.
There are many ways of organising a funeral - at a church or at a crematorium or natural burial sites. Here in the Benefice of Frensham we can offer funeral services at both churches, and we can conduct burials (with or without a service) or interment of ashes at the Church of St Mary the Virgin. Should you wish a church service and then cremation this is also possible. The Vicar can also conduct funeral services at the local crematoria for those in the Benefice. Ashes can then be interred at a later date.
In order to be buried in the graveyard the deceased has to be a parishioner living in the Benefice of Frensham or a person whose name is entered on the church electoral roll whether living in the parish or not (the same applies to ashes except where they are interred with a relative already buried in the church graveyard). In certain circumstances if a regular attender of the church is not on the church electoral role, at the Vicar's discretion, they may have a service with burial or the interment of cremated remains.
f you are wishing to bury your deceased loved one or their ashes in St Mary's Church graveyard, it is important that you know that the plot is 'graced' to your loved one for perpetuity. This is not the same as in a municipal cemetery where you buy the lease to the plot and the next of kin owns the rights. In the Benefice of Frensham there is specific graveyard information and regulation.
If you are organising a funeral or a memorial service you may find it helpful to look at the information on the Church of England website
In the Church of England, Churchyard Regulations apply and there are certain stipulations that must be adhered to which are governed by Church Canon law. Therefore, any monument or additions to the graveyard need permission from the Vicar before they are put in place.
Music for funerals
A list of hymns that you might consider having at a Funeral or Memorial Service is shown below. The numbers refer to Hymns Ancient and Modern New Standard, which we use in St Mary’s.
Abide with me 13
All my hope on God is founded 336
Be still, my soul, the Lord is on your side
Dear Lord and Father of mankind 115
Eternal father, strong to save 292
Faithful vigil ended 453
For all the Saints who from their labours rest 305
Glorious things of thee are spoken 172
God be in my head 236
God is love, let heaven adore him 365
Guide me, O thou great redeemer 214
I heard the voice of Jesus say 247
I know that my redeemer lives 251
I to the hills will lift mine eyes 126
I vow to thee, my country, all earthly things above 295
Immortal, invisible, God only wise 199
In heavenly love abiding 555
Jerusalem the golden 184
Jesu Son of Mary 281
Jesus lives! Thy terrors now 82
Lead, kindly light 215
Lead us, heavenly Father, lead us 224
Lord of all hopefulness 394
Love divine, all loves excelling 131
Loving shepherd of thy sheep 134
Now is eternal life 402
Now thank we all our God 205
O God, our help in ages past 99
O love that wilt not let me go 541
O strength and stay 7
Praise the Lord! ye heavens, adore him 195
Praise, my soul, the King of heaven 192
Praise to the holiest in the height 117
Praise to the Lord, the almighty, the King of creation 207
Rock of ages, cleft for me 135
The day thou gavest, Lord, is ended 16
The King of love my shepherd is 126
The Lord's my shepherd, I'll not want 426
There's a wideness in God's mercy 573
Thine for ever! God of love 234
Through all the changing scenes of life 209
Through the night of doubt and sorrow 211
Thy hand, O God, has guided 171
Who would true valour see 212
Ye that know the Lord is gracious 175